Just breathe

May 23, 2014 | 5 Comments

Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure. ~ Oprah Winfrey

bright green trees and grass in early spring

I take a deep breath, sucking in every ounce of happiness my lungs can take. I breathe in the spring flowers, the walls of my majestic white farmhouse, the tropical smoothie I had for breakfast. I breathe in the wet dog scent that pervades the downstairs this morning, my conversation with my close friend, and I breathe in the musky odor of sports equipment that seems to linger in my nostrils long after the kids have headed off to school with their gear.

I breathe in the soap and cologne left behind in my bedroom from my husband’s morning rituals and the brewed coffee cooling and growing stale in the coffeemaker. And when I feel like there’s no more room in my longs for anything else, I breathe in thoughts of my sister and her children coming to visit this weekend, and the gas fumes of the boat we will tow kids around behind on tubes and skis during Memorial Day Festivities. I breathe margaritas and the damp, mossy smell of the lake air and my parents’ smiles at having their five grandkids around for the weekend. I even make sure there’s room in there on that breathe for my happy color — the bright spring green that greets me every time I look out the window; that covers my bed on oversized pillows and bedspread that lies folded at the end of my bed; and that creates the background on an accent wall in my upstairs, where a few of my favorite oversized kid photos are hung.

It’s all stuffed in there. The happy moments, sights, smells and memories — and the NOW, are all crammed in there in the expansiveness of my lungs and chest. I can feel them creeping between my rib cage and settling their comfortably much like Thing 2′s rear-end did in pregnancy, when Thing 1 needed more room. I hold in all in there for as long as I can, praying that some ounce of that brief feeling will remain, long after I release those breaths.

And then I let it go …

I am left with emptiness and anxiety in the places that were so full of life just moments ago.

This is my struggle everyday. I

Intellectually I am happy. My memories, my senses, my brain all tell me that. But this constant cloud of depression doesn’t allow me to feel it any longer than I can keep my lungs full and that breath inside.

I want to make this cloud above me disappear.

I know when I am getting bogged down with depression, because my life loses order. I can’t find the time to write, to clean, to exercise, to shower. My house becomes cluttered and so does my mind. I sleep more, I don’t have a choice, my eyes just seem to fail me when I try so hard to keep them open. So I surrender to sleep, until my husband’s calls or a slamming door wake me up again.

I am happy. I’m not depressed. Honest.

I just can feel the happiness inside.

That’s how it is with depression, and it’s the battle I fight every day.

It helps to write, which I have neglected.

It helps to declutter and make lists and organize, which I will do as soon as I finish this post.

It helps to have support and increase my meds at these times (which I don’t always like to do because it causes a cloud of another kind).

But I will do it all. …

Because I want to feel as happy as I know I am.



5 Comments so far

  1.    Suzi Banks Baum on May 23, 2014 4:01 pm      Reply

    Oh Kelly. I breathe in a jarful of lilies of the valley and send that sweetness to you. Wrapped round with bundles of lilacs and a peaceful sit in a chair in an oasis of order.
    Life it chaotic. And your overwhelm is understood.
    I am so happy to know you took this step to write.

    With so much love, S

  2.    Jackie on May 23, 2014 6:18 pm      Reply

    It’s ok to feel this way. You are like a breath of fresh air. Such a joy and such a giver to so many and I think sometimes you don’t give yourself a break. You need to rest, to take these breaths, to take this time..and then the joy will come. I know how you feel! Thank you for writing this out loud.

  3.    Meghan on May 24, 2014 12:52 am      Reply

    I know exactly how you feel! Even when you have so many things to be happy about you still get this nagging unexplainable feeling starting to bring you down. It’s very annoying. I think I need my meds adjusted LOL. You’re not alone in this. Hang in there!

  4.    Kelly on May 24, 2014 9:01 am      Reply

    Feeling the love!

  5.    Kelly on May 24, 2014 9:02 am      Reply

    Feeling the love! Thank you.

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